Societal Norms Should Not Be Your Standard

This past weekend, I took part in a fun photoshoot for a friend and local business owner, N-Dowd. During the photoshoot, I had the chance to talk with some amazing women. One of the conversation revolved around how society tries to define what it means to be a woman. As young girls and even early into our womanhood, we allowed these norms of society to be the standards we had for ourselves. These norms that society creates no longer defines who we are or what path we want to take. If you are feeling lost or out of alignment with who you are, you may be trying to live up to societal expectations that are not right for you. Here are some reminders that we all need from time to time as we grow through life.

Being a “successful” woman does not mean you have to be married or have children by a certain age.

Being a “successful” woman does not mean you have to have a certain body shape and size.

Being a “successful” woman does not mean you have to choose family over career or vice versa.

Being a “successful” woman does not mean you have to keep your opinions to yourself so that you are seen as “nice”.

Being a “successful” woman does not mean you have to do it all on your own.

Being a successful woman means being who you are and doing what you want. Society should not be setting the expectations for our lives, we should be.

When I was in my early 20’s, I used to measure myself against these standards and felt inadequate as a woman if I did not live up to most. Having that mentality did not allow me to live a free and intuitive life and it will not allow you to either. Focus on what brings you true happiness and forget what society tells you to be.