I cannot tell you how many times someone has commented on my food choices. I legit once had an acquaintance approach me at a restaurant to let me know how many calories were in my dessert. Human, please go enjoy your diet, fat-free, no taste ice cream while I enjoy my delicious ice cream.
When I was first recovering from my dieting and binge eating issues, these comments got the best of me and often sent me into a downward spiral. I did not know how to handle these comments and they always reopened the wounds I was trying to heal. Below are ways to deal with these comments both internally and externally.
When someone comments on your food choices, that most likely means they are struggling with something food related themselves. This person might be going through an internal struggle and unknowingly projects it onto others as a judgement. Remember this the next time someone comments on your food choices. Don't take it personally. Maybe you and that person can discuss this issue and end up helping each other heal.
If you are still feeling weak or anxious when someone makes a comment, this might mean that you are still in the beginning or middle of your journey. You have to give yourself grace and be patient as you become more comfortable and at peace with your individual food choices. I think one of the best responses you can give to someone is "Thank you for your concern about my health, but my food choices are perfect for me". This allows you to acknowledge that they probably had good intentions and also lets them know that you are comfortable and confident in your food choices. As you repeat that mantra, you will start to actually believe it for yourself.
While you are on your recovery journey, these comments might cause you to go into a downward spiral. The comment that was made might get to you and you might end up restricting or bingeing again. When this happens, establish time to be by yourself to practice self-care. I know this sound cliche, but self-care helps you get real with yourself and get back into the present. My favorite things to do when I'm feeling like I need to address an internal issue is journal or meditate (or both).
I wish people would stop commenting on other people's food choices but until then, I hope these words of advice will help you the next time the situation comes up. If you have a few minutes, I would appreciate it if you could fill out this survey: https://www.surveymonkey.com/r/N3YRD3J. I am looking for feedback from people who are struggling with dieting & other food related issues so I can create helpful programs & other types of support for you!
Sending love and positive vibes to you this week and always.