Last weekend, my roommate and I went shopping for her back-to-school outfit (she's a teacher). We went to her favorite store in the mall and she ended buying three pieces of clothing, one dress and two shirts. You would think that they'd all be the same size but NOPE. Each item was a completely different size. She and I were both surprised but this goes to show that the tag on your clothing DEFINITELY does not define who you are.
I don't think there is ever a time when your clothing size gets to define who you are. Why do we women think less of ourselves if heaven forbid our jeans are not a size zero or our shirts aren't an extra small?! The majority of pop culture and social media have it drilled into our heads that we have to look a certain way and be a certain size in order to be considered beautiful. I'm here today to tell you that they're WRONG.
This is why the diet industry is as big as it is today. We women have been taught to think that we have to diet in order to make our physical appearance more attractive. What is up with this mentality and why do we have such a hard time letting go of it even when we know it's not the right way to think or live?
Here's the thing, we've grown up for 20+ years being influenced this way and the only way to get out of this habitual way of thinking is by forming new thoughts and habits. We have to stop using the words that drive us into a pool of self-hate. Stop saying you're ugly or fat. Stop saying your arms are too "jiggly" or your legs are too muscular. The reason you are saying these things is probably because you are still stuck in this mentality that in order to be beautiful, you HAVE to look like the models in the magazines (not reality, by the way).
Replace these negative comments about your body with positive ones. Find something you love about your body and say it aloud! Practice gratitude when it comes to your physical body. What are you thankful for? Are you thankful for your legs and how they allow you to easily walk up and down the stairs? Are you thankful for the strength in your arms that allows you to safely carry your baby to bed every night? Find something to be thankful for every single day and start appreciating your body for everything it can do.
Don't worry about the size of your wedding dress or your work outfit! Who cares! If you are taking care of yourself and feeling great, then own it. Own your body. Own your personality. Go confidently into the world and NEVER let the tag on your clothing define who you are.
With love and peace,